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The Power of Genuine Questions

By Autumn Wilson


I had my first NVC break-through moment with my son about two weeks into the
Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids class with Inessa Love. I was having a
hard time finding calm enough moments with my two kids to practice this very
new vocabulary and structure I am learning, so I decided to try it in a
situation with only one of my children.

So one evening, we had a relatively quiet bedtime with my 3-year old son,
but when it came time for me to leave him to fall asleep, he began to
protest. "No! I want you to lie down with me until I fall asleep!" he
insisted.

Sensing and opportunity, I decided to tryout my new NVC skills. I said to my
son calmly, "It sounds like you need a little more time to cuddle with
mommy. And mommy needs to go to eat because mommy is very hungry." And then
I asked him a genuine question - one for which I was not attached to a
particular response.

So I asked, "Would it be OK with you if I stayed in bed with you to cuddle
for five minutes and then went downstairs to eat my dinner?" My son thought
for a few seconds and said "yes."

Asking a question to which I am open to hear either a yes or a no is
something new to me, thanks to NVC. I realize now that I have often asked
questions for which I will only accept one response. I'd like to imagine
that my son felt that I was genuinely open to him saying no, and that helped
him to say yes.

We cuddled for 5 minutes and at the end of the time I told him I was going
downstairs to eat. He said "OK" and I left with no protest.

What a joy to work thorough a situation that could have moved toward
conflict with such ease so everyone felt satisfied! I am so excited to
continue practicing NVC and begin to work it into even more challenging
situations.

Conflict Communication with Children

1) In this insightful and fascinating interview with Doug Noll of lawyertopeacemaker.com, Patty Wipfler (creator of HandinHandParenting.org website of great tools and info) and Doug discuss the fundamentals of

Parenting by Connection and their far-reaching implications for adults and society.

An interview every parent should hear! Please share this with all those in your life who care about families. Patti has taught me so much in dealing with 3 grandchildren who are very close in age.

2) Pam Leo, author of Parenting by Connection, interview. http://consciouslypar...

Pam’s website: www.ConnectionParenting.com

3) For those in Atlanta area, the person who gives parent workshops about using Compassionate Communication with our children is Sheri Boyles Rogers, a mother of two boys, sherri@ganvc.org and the website is www.ganvc.org which will list the classes offered.

I highly recommend learning Compassionate (or nonviolent) communication, as it is subtitled “The Language of Life” and it really helps us stay connected to our own inner emotional landscape and to listen deeply to others feelings and needs. Such connection can happen when you would have previously thought the difficult conversation would lead to disconnection. The main website is www.cnvc.org